Everyone has been posting their 10 year now and then photos. It got me to thinking about who I was 10 years ago. What I would want to tell her now, what I want to remember about her... because let’s face it, I’ve changed since 10 years ago, haven’t we all?! And if you haven’t, why haven’t you?! What’s holding you back from growing, learning and changing? Change isn’t bad, and the fact that I am not quite the same as the woman I was 10 years ago, shouldn’t be a bad thing, motherhood has not made me “forget who I am”, motherhood has awoken me to who I need to be becoming.
So here are some things I feel like I would tell 2009 me.
1. Motherhood makes you understand God and the gospel, in a way you never understood it before. This one could be a entire blog entry in its self. In simple terms, I shamefully admit that i didn’t realize how much of a sinner I was until I became a mom. I know that’s so so weird right. But I think it took seeing a being that I created, and the love I felt for that little baby boy, to really understand how much God loves me, and why he desires my heart so deeply. And then realizing the pain he felt sending his child to pay for my sins,
2. Newborn stage is the easiest. For me anyways. I know many parents would disagree. But there is nothing like them staring up at you and nothing but love is in their eyes! They will always love you, but growing pains are real and sometimes the disconnect does come.
3. You will miss all the stages , but with the growing comes new amazing stages also.
4. Mistakes will be made, mainly by you.
5. You relationship with them is more important to their success in school. Basically, let them be little. Don’t rush them to read, just read to them. Don’t rush math, just play games with them. It will all happen, and so much learning is being done through the simple act of playing. Don’t feel pressure to get them on track education wise, society doesn’t always know best.
6. You’re going to have lots of great adventures. Maybe not like traveling the globe, but wonderful, simple things. Ocean, mountains, forests and hills, you cover them all, with your loud, sometimes complaining children, right beside you:)
7. Forgive yourself. It’s so hard to do sometimes, but don’t keep a record of your sins. Ask forgiveness and try to move on. You are not your mistakes.
8. Laugh more, smile more. The to do list is going to bog you down, but smile and laugh with your children. It’s good for the soul. It’s good for your kids to see you laugh :)
9. Don’t brush your marriage aside. I feel like people tell you this all the time. I think everything has a season, and when your deep into the little years, it’s easy for this to happen. Make time to connect and to talk. Dates won’t always happen, that’s ok. You guys are a team. Work together , but in your marriage and in parenting. Neither will thrive if one is neglected. They go hand in hand.
10.Don’t stop. Don’t stop caring. Don’t stop learning. Don’t stop trying. Especially , and most importantly, don’t stop looking to Jesus to be your strength.
I am sure I can elaborate on all of these, but it’s taken me 4 days to write just this out 😂 Within the last 10 minutes of writing this I have helped my boys sew their stuffed animals, stoped Edison from making another mess, and put the girls hair in buns.
The next 10 years are going to bring new life lessons... and my oldest will be 20 🤯 So yea, gonna go listen to my own advice now. Have a great Wednesday everyone!
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